let's hug the haters

Thursday, July 22, 2010

I wonder what it is that makes one person mean to another. I know when I'm in a cranky mood, I tend to add a grumble or rolled eye to the poor girl at the bank drivethrough or the cashier at Target because I'm having a shitty day and poor me thinks the world hates me, which stings when you're a people-pleaser like myself. But why do some people have to take it to the mean level?

Like most in the "plus industry," I've been the target of some mean emails and comments, and it's hard not to take it personally. It's inevitable and lucky for me my skin started it's thickening process in the fall of 2006 (when Skorch Mag was started). 

But, I think the next time I encounter a hater, I'm going to give them a hug! Yes, I say let's hug the haters. That might help, right?

And, run to see Twilight Eclipse with a best gal pal and carb load at Applebees like I did! This is my girl Bunn Salarzon. To say she's a phenomenal photographer doesn't give her enough credit, truly. Her work is art and I'm so lucky to not only know her, but be her date to the movies! She actually shot the October 2009 cover of Skorch Mag that featured Jamieya.

Plus! She helped a sister out and took my photos for this blog post, thank you Bunn! You're still genius, even with my poor little point-n-shoot. LOL


[ Top - gifted from Figuresque.com, Shorts- gifted from OldNavy.com, Shrug - CurvyGirlClothing.com, Handbag- HtPurses.com, Shoes - Payless ]

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  1. You have fab legs and that outfit is incredibly flattering, another winner !

  2. Isn't a shame that people have to put others down to feel good about themselves?! It's quite sad. Glad you have a great attitude about it, I feel the same way! :) cute outfit, love that top!

    Lexy of Beautylicious Fashionista

  3. What haters don't realize is the more they keep you on the tip of the their tongue the better position they put you in for success. The unsuccessful don't get blogs, emails, websites, and phone calls about them....

    Trying to get 10,000 more haters by the end of the summer...

  4. haha! I really had no idea how to use your PNS; I was looking for the focusing ring and wondered why I could only click the shutter one at a time, not like the craziness I do with my DSLR. I'll get better on our next date! We need to do "girls night out" more often! HUGS!!! P.S. I guess it's a good thing that I have tons of freckles because they kind of mask those mosquito bites on my chin! ;)

  5. I love you Jessica just the way you are, and truly know how that feels like, & I know too how people love your idea so much, they take all your hard work and make it as their own =(. But I keep strong!!!

  6. nothin kills like kindness... good 4 u! plus with cute looks like that, it's all jealousy.

  7. I love you ladies, thank you SO much!

    @svenskaussie - great legs?!! shut the front door - really? well thank you!

    @lexy - no doubt! thank you!

    @keke - weerrrk. No doubt, and hell - 10k more haters would be awesome for web traffic. LMAO

    @bunn - do you know how long it took me to figure out PNS?!! Damn you - derr. LOL and YES- mandatory. PS - i think your freckles are beautiful, honest.

    @joanne - thank you for the love girl! I totally just saw your twitter dm's - damn it - hate twitter and anything that limited the characters I may use - I'm wordy. LOL

    @Len - aww girl, you're too sweet. Thank you though, who knows, but thank you.

  8. love this outfit, might have to steal the idea! Thanks!!!

  9. You know success comes with it's issues. The fact is that it is when they are not talking about you that you should worry.

    When I first came into the business and fitness industry I had hate mail, like vicious "you ****** " (every bad word you can think of) emailed to me, phone calls. It was crazy. But it only made me that much stronger, that much wiser and dammit that much more successful.

    So as you sit on top of your empire today as did you can look down at them and realize that they never took your success way. You are that much more beautiful each day and you are that much better.

    You are that much more successful. As you laugh they can only cry because your crown and your thrown is unbreakable Miss Jessica Kane!

  10. @jude - thank you so much! I guessssss....LOL Only if you promise to post when you do! I want to see!

    @bonnie - i heart you. thank you for your constant encouragement, so refreshing. HUGS!

  11. You look so pretty! love the shirt!

  12. i think you look lovely!!!!!! love your legs! and to the haters out there, you know what they are so self loathing and lack confidence with themselves they have to lash out at those who do have confidence and do like themselves, i agree go hug them...and you know what you have it all going for you...


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